To listen is to turn towards another, to leave self behind; and that is to love.
– Laurence Freeman
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How does one leave self behind?
When you leave self behind, it is then that you truly listen to another and share the gift of love.
Let me share some brief thoughts on how to better listen.
Turn off your cell phone!
Do not think about what you will say.
Lean in.
Utilize direct eye contact.
Ask questions.
Only render your thoughts if you are asked to do so.
Acknowledge what you have heard.
Do not inwardly plan your day.
Invite them to share again.
It is not about you.
It is about them.
You will soon get your turn.
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Laurence Freeman, Jesus the Teacher Within
Laurence Freeman, First Sight: The Experience of Faith
Stefan Gillow Reynolds, Living With The Mind of Christ: Mindfulness and Christian Spirituality
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