Intimacy with God: Book Review

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I am excited to share my review of Intimacy with God: An Introduction To Centering Prayer by Thomas Keating.

Thomas Keating is a founder of the Centering Prayer movement, an author, a teacher, and a monk who has worked for many years to foster understanding among the world’s religions. A member of the Cistercian Order in the Benedictine tradition, he has served at monasteries in Colorado and Massachusetts. Fr. Thomas Keating is a founding member and the spiritual guide of Contemplative Outreach.

“This book describes the unfolding experience of contemplative life that grows as the false self and the accompanying sense of separation from God recedes.”

I have been a practitioner of centering prayer for just over 3 years.  Let me share some key insights that I gained as I read this wonderful book.


“The Christian spiritual path is based on a deepening trust in God. It is trust that first allows us to take the initial leap in the dark, to encounter God at the deeper levels of ourselves. And it is trust that guides the intimate refashioning of our being, the transformation of our pain, woundedness, and unconscious motivation into the person that God intended us to be.”

Each time I sit in silence I trust God. Laurence Freeman reminds us that meditation is an act of faith. During this time, I trust that God will transform me slowly and at His, not my pace, into the person He intended me to be. This can certainly be scary and frustrating because I constantly bring my ideas and preconceived notions to the silent prayer table.

I must let go of who I think I am, what I think I want to be so I can open to the Divine. Each time I sit in silence with God I practice my faith muscle. As I trust God during the silence of centering prayer I better learn how to trust God during my non silent times of the day.

The Body

“The body is storehouse of emotional energy that is not adequately processed.”

A long term silent prayer practice heals my body. Silent prayer is a safe place where I can and should feel comfortable to allow the release of the often unconscious emotional energies that are stored in my body as clenched teeth, tight chest, heavy shoulders, upset stomach to name a few.  God loves me and only wishes to heal me to my innermost core.

Pain: A Sacred Symbol

“Then we just sit with it, and the pain itself becomes our sacred symbol.”

This is an excellent suggestion. My sacred word is an internal image of a Jesus icon. There are times when my mind especially races during centering prayer. My mind is preoccupied with worry and anxiety. Rather than use my Jesus icon at this time, I can use the worry or anxiety as my sacred symbol over and over again until the closing bell has rung.

Wear Away the False Self

“By returning to the sacred word again and again, we gradually are wearing away the layers of false self until they are emptied out.”

“The fullness of divine life of course is not permanently established until we come to the bottom of the pile of our emotional junk. The undigested emotional material of a lifetime has to be processed by the Divine Therapist before we can as access the fullness of liberation from the false self.”

This beautiful act of ever so gently returning to the sacred word wears away the false self layers! It is a daily act when I release the false self chains and become the person God wants me to be. I can also return to my sacred word even during my non silent times of the day and remain focused on who God wants me to be.

Sacred Reading

“In our day, we are almost completely desensitized to sacred reading because we are so used to newspapers, magazines, and speed reading.”

Sometimes it is nice to read a book slowly and chew on it. That is why I like lectio divina. Sacred reading is a different type of reading. I read with the eyes of the heart. What glimmers and shimmers as I read the pages? What is the Divine trying to reveal to me? I encourage others to try it too.

Whole Being

“It is the opening of mind and heart – our whole being – to God beyond thoughts, words, and emotions.”

When we sit in silence with the Divine we bring our whole being to God: body, mind and heart. I relax my body yet remain alert. I let go of thoughts and emotions that are on my mind. I open my heart to God. This is important! We must open our whole being to God: body, mind and heart.


“….so that when we sit down in our chair or on the floor, we are relating to the mystery of Christ’s passion, death, and resurrection, not as something outside of us but as something inside of us.”

I will admit that I struggle with this one. If God is in me, as I sit in silence I relate to the mystery of Christ’s passion, death and resurrection as something inside of me. It makes sense and I trust that God will continue to reveal more of this mystery to me.

What suffering am I in the midst of? What must I die to in order to better experience the presence of God? What new life have I seen resurrected in my daily routines and activities?

Next Steps

“The primary teaching of Centering Prayer is basically very simple and can be expressed in two words: “Do it!”  It will then do you. But it requires doing it every day.”

“No one understands contemplative prayer without some experience of it.”

“When we are sitting in Centering Prayer, we may seem to be doing nothing, but we are doing perhaps the most important of all functions, which is to become who we are, the unique manifestation of the Word of God that the Spirit designed us to be.”

The next steps are simple yet very important. Keep at it! A twice per day, centering prayer practice will transform you. You will become the person God intends you to be!

I will go back and re-read this enlightening book.

Go Further

Intimacy with God: An Introduction to Centering Prayer by Thomas Keating

Open Mind, Open Heart 20th Anniversary Edition by Thomas Keating

Invitation to Love 20th Anniversary Edition: The Way of Christian Contemplation  by Thomas Keating

Manifesting God by Thomas Keating

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Centering Prayer Course:  A Training Course for Opening to the Presence of God – Centering Prayer is a silent prayer practice that can move you toward a profound relationship with the Spirit of God within. It is a way of praying that opens the door to the Divine Indwelling—the ground of our being. With Centering Prayer, Father Thomas Keating and his colleagues Gail Fitzpatrick-Hopler and Father Carl Arico present the first online course in this method for deepening your intimacy with God and ultimately consenting to the presence and action of the Divine in all aspects of your life.

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7 thoughts on “Intimacy with God: Book Review”

  1. How does this book compare to Open Mind/Open Heart? It sounds as if it deals more w/ the results, or journey of CP rather than the the actual method? I’ve had it on my shelf for years, but haven’t read it! Thanks for the review & for the list of resources at the end.

    1. Hi Melanie. I agree with your assessment. I am glad I read after the other book. Both good in their own ways! Thanks for your message.

  2. I am widowed , 17 years on my own . I see my life as onement with God, based on trust . I can’t see the point of ‘doing’ a meditation half hour session morning and night when the whole day and night is prayer of being ….
    Why try and package prayer into a daily slot when God is closer to ourselves than breathing etc ….
    Going about daily tasks in prayer seems to me more natural than allocating a special 30 mins …..seems a bit pedantic when God is a n fact a daily earthquake….

    1. Thank you for your comments. Centering prayer complements my other prayer forms. It is not the only way I pray during the day. I have found it to be a wonderful way to start the day. My second sit later in the day, reenergizes me and reconnects me to God. However, even as you mention, I pray throughout the day too, just not via my Centering Prayer practice. I encourage you, as it sounds like you do, to trust the nudges and prompts of the Spirit in your prayer life.

  3. Thanks for your excellent review. I look forward it reading the book. Anything, Thomas Keating writes deserves to be read. Thanks again for your excellent review.

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